
Now that I actually realize something I always thought I believed: Travel, apart from the temporary insomniac behavior it renders, the prolonged time of waiting to reach the destination it does has its advantages !
For example today, in the train from Mumbai to Goa, I happened to get a seat with a couple of elderly people. I noticed that the man sitting beside me had some complication with his left arm. He was continuously holding it with his other limb and lifting it with effort. Now and then he looked at his hand and unfolded his fingers with pain (the impulsive cross lines on his forehead revealed enough). I have always seen aged people with an eye of respect: men and women with experience, who have seen time much more than me, who might be feeble and weak, but their minds have stories which would take eons to narrate. But today, I realized another side of old age when I asked this person about his problem.
But, before that, let me rewind the story to the point where I actually started getting interested to know more. Earlier, after I had had my home-made lunch, I realized I somehow had a couple of candies in my bag. I offered one to the old man thinking that he would definitely reject it ( u know, mature stuff, candies are for kids and allied .. ), but he gratefully took it from me! And in no time he was fiddling with the wrapper trying to find a way how to remove the wrapper from the candy! His eyes were weak, and one arm was being used with effort, he was slow considering his age, but he was keen to remove the wrapper and wasn't being able to. I couldn't hide my smile and offered to help. At this. he hurriedly gave it to me as if all he wanted was to unwrap the candy by whatsoever means! He was impatient. And there, in the next 5 seconds after I had been successful in helping, he seemed to relish it in his mouth. That's when it struck me that we are born innocent, and towards then end, we tend to become the same! And then I started noticing this man sitting beside me whom I was unknowingly generalizing as a typical old aged person.
I told you about his arm, and after being a bit inquisitive about my observations, I asked him about the arm. He suddenly sprung up and started telling me with grave eagerness his answer in some language I didn't know. But I could make out that some doctor at some place in Mumbai had given him 7 injections in the chest because of the ailment. He told all this to me, all annoyed, and mentioned the 'injection' with great stress. Yes ! He was afraid of injections and was all the more proud of having let the doctor do it to him. Just the thought of having 'survived' 7 injections gave him such a deep sense of pleasure and made him feel brave ! :) It is just like children , when they do petty things that they definitely are proud of, then try to tell it eagerly to anyone they come across! They would tell it in detail, using as much gestures as possible, waving their hands, nodding to make you understand that they really have done a great job. And you just praise them and that's all they want ! And I could see the same thing here when he was pointing his index finger towards his chest and wrinkling his forehead when he was talking about he injections. I smiled.
So this is something I learnt! When we would grow old, we would revert back to what we were when we were kids. We would need help waling, talking and eating. And we would need people to praise us for things that we call 'petty' or 'insignificant' at this point of time. This is the circle of life.
Now why am I writing all this? In old age physical strength deteriorates, mental stability diminishes. And what are we doing to sort it out? We can't solve the problem but we can help people through this! We are establishing old-age homes, we are giving them concessions at various levels, we are giving them medical treatment at discounted rates. A minute. Who is 'we' here ? Did I use 'we'. I should have used 'they', because have 'we' done anything till now? It is 'they' who are actually working. It is the will of the men in Ahmedabad where 5 star facilities are being given to an old age home called 'shravan ashram'. It was in Chandigarh where the week-long NSS camp of Dev Samaj College for women concluded its valedictory ceremony at Old Age Home this New Year. Numerous agencies and NGOs are working in your city with the motive to bring a bit more life to the people in the sunset years of their lives. Again the question comes, what can 'we' do ? We can start with thinking about them as our immediate ancestors, fountains of experience and innocence. Not following the regular trend of seeing them as liabilities or as a burden, but feel responsible for them and their condition. There are mothers, fathers, grand mothers, grand fathers, uncles, aunts, old neighbors who need to be looked after responsibly, who need to be taken care of because they are just like the children we see. The only difference is that we are beginning to follow a culture of selective respect. Traditionally, in most world histories, you can find that the elders were always respected and given a rightful position in the family. All the family decisions would first be consented by them. They were taken care of and cherished as persons of knowledge. It becomes our duty to make sure these values are not forgotten.